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3/16/2020 3 Comments

Control in the Time of Covid-19

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    School is closed for at least the next two weeks because of the Covid-19 virus. I still don’t know anybody who has gotten it, so it all seems very surreal to me although I’m definitely not a conspiracy theorist. On Friday morning, as we prepared for the last day of in-person school for an indefinite amount of time, my children were bundles of emotions. They couldn’t help but be excited by the prospect of sleeping in and learning from home. But rather than cheerful exuberance, my youngest was a mean and grumpy mess. We tried joking with her but that just fanned the flame. Finally, I went over to her and gave her a big hug and said, “Hey, I know this is all very strange. The school is doing what they need to do to help stop the spread of the virus. You probably don’t know what to think. But we are safe, and we will all be together, and we will have some fun.”
    She cried for a minute but then her mood changed completely and she was joking around and eating breakfast in good spirits. 
    Similarly, thousands of people have been stockpiling toilet paper. The memes are endless and the pictures of bare grocery shelves are everywhere. Why toilet paper? Covid-19 doesn’t give you diarrhea. It doesn’t make sense if you think about it. But clearly it isn’t just a handful of doomsdayers, and I refuse to believe that the majority of them are now selling toilet paper for $50 a roll on line (shame on those who are!). Still, every grocery store in my town has sold out, restocked, sold out again and on and on. This means that the average Joe is buying well more than a month's supply. 
    What does this have to do with my daughter’s breakdown? Control. People are feeling out of control so they are exerting control in places they can. They can't control the virus or the lockdown, but they sure as hell can stock their closets with toilet paper. This is an unprecedented situation and we are being bombarded by information and misinformation and convoluted messages. I’m an adult whose husband works in the medical field and I still can’t wrap my head around what’s going on and what’s the best course of action. My 8 year old daughter is hearing snippets of news and I’m sure she’s picking up on the universal anxiety that’s everywhere, but she doesn’t understand why her school is closing and why we are joking about a toilet paper shortage. 
    I’d argue that most of our problems come from a lack of control or a feeling of such. What can we control, after all? We can’t control the actions of others. We can’t control the weather. We can’t control the coronavirus. We can’t control whether or not somebody loves us. We can’t control corrupt politicians or the opinions of others or the actions of criminals or how long somebody lives. The only thing we can control is ourselves.
    I’ve never understood people who seek out positions of power and greed for the sake of power and money. But while I am not wired that way, I think I’m starting to get it. It all comes back to control. If you are in a position of power, you have more control. If you are rich, money gives you control over a lot of things. Crime is all about control. In fact, I can’t think of a crime that isn’t about control of people or resources or money or government.
    I don’t have an answer to this need for control that pushes humanity to start cults and bully each other and create toilet paper shortages. I think growing your own food and raising kids (or pets) and creating something (ie. making art, writing, baking, building) help give us some sense of satisfaction and control. I’ve been thinking about it a lot with at least 2 weeks of limited social activities ahead and here are some things I’m going to try and want to share with you.
 
Control in the Time of Covid-19:

  1. Control your schedule: If you are stuck at home with kids, that can go bad really quickly. Create a schedule. Our school has online learning from 9-noon each day, but I plan to have gym, art and music in the afternoon. Get creative with crafts, science experiments and outdoor fun. 
  2. Control your space: Choose some manageable projects. Organize a closet. Paint a room. Empty the junk drawer. Exert some control over the clutter and see how it improves your mental state. My daughters cleared off their workspaces and organized their supplies and now they are excited about remote learning.
  3. Control what you eat: Cooking and baking bring me great joy and relieve stress. Take this time to try some new recipes, crack those cookbooks that have been sitting on the shelf, and practice healthy eating. Get your family involved to learn new skills and enjoy the satisfaction of eating something they made. 
  4. Control what you read: Avoid social media. Check trusted news sources and experts for updates. 
  5. Control what you think: Build some time into the day for meditation, nature walks, reading for pleasure, and talking to your family. If you find yourself stewing with anxiety, find a healthy distraction and focus on being present. Watch some feel good movies and listen to your favorite music. 
  6. Control your health: Workout, get good sleep, eat well and practice social distancing. It might feel inconvenient and frustrating to be isolated, but science has proven that it works. If you get sick, take care of yourself and avoid contact with others. 
  7. Control your feeling of helplessness: See where you can give. Our school collected grocery gift cards and we have a local program doing a food drive to distribute to families who rely on free school lunch. Check in with your neighbors (remotely, of course). Share craft ideas. Let your family know that they are loved and safe. Also, remember that if we do this right, it might seem like an overreaction, but by staying home and limiting social contact, you ARE helping. 

    If you have any other ideas about how to exert control in these uncertain and unprecedented times, please share.  We will get through this.


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3/22/2020 11:05:50 pm

Well, it is about time to control this virus! Every part of this world has been doing its share to control the spread of COVID-19. We should also do ur part by staying at home so that we will never acquire the virus and spread it with others. Thank you for the tips that you mentioned because I learned a lot. Instead of complaining, it will always be better to do precautionary measures so we could survive. As much ad possible, stay healthy. Always eat and drink and keep yourself away from people for the mean time!

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