My oldest daughter, Aleida, is in 4th grade this year, and she's been coming home with lots of talk about the "popular kids" and what they're up to. According to her, she is not one of the popular kids.
"Do you want to be popular?" I asked.
"No!" she answered, with great feeling.
Still, she's clearly torn. As a mother, my heart aches to think that she might feel left out or "less than" when at school, but I also know that navigating the cliques and social pressures are all part of growing up. I can't control the kids at school, but perhaps I can give my daughter some tools to help her through the process.
More than anything, I want my daughters to like themselves. Sure, self esteem will wax and wane, but if they can truly like themselves, they can avoid being derailed by the opinions of others.
This brings me to my quote of the day from Byron Katie:
Do you struggle with self doubt or low self esteem? Is your self-worth affected by what others think of you? If so, try some of these suggestions to cultivate self love and appreciation.